Seeing how my boyfriend and I have such differing life goals at the moment, we are basically forced to make compromises, or at least try and think of compromises, in order for us both to be happy. I want to travel, long-term, to a gazillion places and some that most people wouldn’t consider. He wants to travel, but he really likes the idea of getting ahead in a career, making a bit of money and possibly starting his own business(es). That’s cool; I respect that.
Unfortunately, this doesn’t lead to the probability that we’ll be packing up and setting out on a round-the-world journey anytime soon. So, what do we do?
A simple compromise would be to say that we’ll take one big international trip each year together. In 2011, this is going to be Malaysia and a trip to the USA – awesome! We’re totally psyched for these upcoming travels, but the sad part of this story is that these trips will pretty much be “it” for the entire year – bummer!
If we continue at that rate, we won’t get to my top 10 list until I’m about 40! No, no, no… not cool.
Another compromise would be to attempt something along the lines of what Kieth of Traveling Savage is doing: one month trips abroad every 3 months. In this process, he is traveling for one month to one country, and then staying home for the following two months before setting off again. I think this is a fantastic idea for someone with wanderlust and a home life, but for me personally?… I can see a few concerns in regards to this plan:
- Cost. The idea of flying to one place, flying home and then flying off to another place seems costly. It would be hard to justify flying to Greece, back to Australia and then on to Russia when that extra stop could be a much cheaper flight from Europe. If we were based in the U.S., this might not be as pricey, but from Australia… whoa. I don’t like the idea of feeling like I’m throwing money away like that.
- It’s a month at a time. On one hand, I would feel a bit held back by being constrained to that certain amount of time. I know, you can have amazing Greece holidays and fantastic Syrian adventures in less time, but… I’ve been spoiled by long-term travel freedom, so I’m sure this comment strikes a sour note with those who can only get 2 weeks off a year.
On the other hand, I would feel sad being away from Pat that long. On the 16 day East Coast Road Trip I took with Heather, I was already missing him on the first day… and it was a long 15 days after until I made it home. While I enjoyed my time away as best I could, crawling into my sleeping bag at night without him there felt wrong. Yes, I know it is completely girlish and lame, but it’s the truth.
- Relationship fears. I definitely think a month here and there can be feasible, but repeatedly I would fear that interfering with the “closeness” of the relationship. One person’s at home, working and living a normal life, while the other one is traipsing around the globe. This could do two things: make the person finally decide to go with you, or make them forget you. I know people make it work, but it is still a fear of mine nonetheless.
More than that, I just want to experience all the fun stuff in this world with my partner in crime, so taking trips without him just isn’t the compromise I’m looking for.
So, I’m going to – at least for the time being – rule the option of smaller trips out. Who knows, it may come down to this eventually, but we’ll see what else we can work out.
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