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10 Before 30 Plan: Issue Number 1

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Brooke in KievDealing with reality is a bummer sometimes.

I made that post about the top 10 countries I want to visit before I hit 30 with a dream in mind. In order to think about a future goal as big as this, I have to put it down and let my mind I mull over it for quite some time. That post was step 1.

Step 2 is dealing with the logistics and how — or if — it is possible.

What I really want more than anything is to be able and take some time — as much time as necessary — to float around this list of countries. I want to go when it feels right, and leave only when it feels necessary.

But, I’m not alone in this plan. There is so much more to this plan than just my simple list to think about.

 

Enter Patrick. My boyfriend. My partner.

Pat with a rock wallabyPatrick and I are like two soul-mates that have very different life goals (how that’s possible, I don’t know). I like to think that we even each other out a bit (he’s grounded, I’m a little spontaneous). Sure, we may have met in Europe, but the fact here is that Patrick was more than fine with his four months away in 2008, and it might be a few years until he feels the travel urge to the same degree. My travel urges, on the other hand, get very strong in a matter of a few months.

So, while Pat likes the idea of traveling the world with me, he isn’t at a point where he can say, “Yes, we’re going in 2012.” I think part of this is the fact that he’s at a job where he can make buckets of money if he just sticks with it a while longer. This is good. Money is good. But, this is bad for me who is just kind of hanging out and wanting to make plans.

Furthermore, I think Pat and I have very different ideas of perfect travel. I am determined to go to Georgia, Syria and Uzbekistan; he wants something less “out there”.

 

And then there’s this:

A friend of ours is planning to take some time off in 2011 to travel to the US, Europe and Africa I believe. He asked us if he was taking enough time.

Pat: How long are you taking?
Friend: Eight months.

Pat and I simultaneously answered, but we definitely did not say the same thing.

Pat: Oh yeah, that’s plenty of time.
Me: No way, take longer!

True story.

So, yes, there is definitely a lot more going on in this whole 10 before 30 plan than that first post mentions. How I will make this happen is still a mystery to me (unless Airtreks were willing to sponsor us two RTW tickets, then how could we not go? teehee), but I think laying it all out there is the way to at least get the ideas flowing.

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23 Responses to 10 Before 30 Plan: Issue Number 1

  1. Jill - Jack and Jill Travel The World November 23, 2010 at 9:50 am #

    That’s a tough position to be in. Jack and I were in a similar boat when we got married. I got an itch to see the world… Jack was content in the workforce. We made a compromise: we made a savings target and a waiting timeline target. We’re leaving whenever the first target is reached.

    About the difference in ideal destinations… the only suggestion is figure out why he’s not willing to be open to the more “out there” destinations and maybe work on that. Take shorter trips to slightly “out there” destinations to condition him… it worked on Jack :p

    • Brooke November 23, 2010 at 2:37 pm #

      Yeah I’m sure we’ll make it work πŸ™‚ I’m not going to push him to do something he doesn’t want to do, but I’ll definitely serve up as much inspiration as I can πŸ˜‰

  2. Danielw November 23, 2010 at 11:57 am #

    I’m sure you will come to a compromise on this one that suits you both. I do understand what you mean though, not having a set date or even a proposed date for travel is a bummer. It’s always good to have something planned, the build up, the saving up and the anticipation is half the fun.
    I like the more “out there” destinations myself but can understand why some people are not so enthusiastic. I would try a shorter break first just as a taster (finances permitting of course)

    • Brooke November 23, 2010 at 2:31 pm #

      Agreed! I love the build up before travel. It makes life so much more exciting knowing you’re going after a goal.

  3. Lauren November 23, 2010 at 12:25 pm #

    You’ll get there. πŸ™‚ I’m glad you and Pat are approaching it as a team, even if you have differing opinions.

    • Brooke November 23, 2010 at 2:44 pm #

      Cheers, Lauren πŸ™‚ Definitely do not like the idea of doing something w/o Pat, but that’s another post altogether.

  4. Tony November 23, 2010 at 12:41 pm #

    You could always give Pat the travel guides for Georgia, Syria and Uzbekistan so he can couch travel while you’re away! πŸ˜‰

    • Brooke November 23, 2010 at 2:32 pm #

      Bahaha! I’m sure he’d love that suggestion πŸ˜‰

  5. Jade November 23, 2010 at 3:51 pm #

    It’s funny the way you describe Patrick and yourself- so similar to me and Bob. While we both love to travel, Bob is content with only a few trips a year (they can even be in the same state) while I have always had much bigger travel dreams and require huge trips to feel like I’m getting my time and vacation worth. Also, I could travel forever (I think) and he likes having a home to come home to.
    Good luck on figuring this all out. I can’t wait to read how you two compromise!!!

    • Brooke November 23, 2010 at 4:32 pm #

      So funny! It must be a winning combination πŸ˜‰

  6. Megan November 24, 2010 at 2:28 am #

    I can’t believe you didn’t go to Uzbekistan when you were in Central Asia! I know the logistics are a pain but its doable. Just a tipβ€”I tried to get an Uzbek visa in the US and almost didn’t get my passport back (without a visa even!) in time before I left for my trip. Even with the interview and hiring a translator it was easier to get in Kyrgyzstan. Hopefully the embassy in Australia is friendlier because the American Uzbek embassy was not interested in giving me a visa at all.

    • Brooke November 24, 2010 at 6:58 am #

      Haha, I know. I got preoccupied with Russian classes and Kazakhstan… then when it got bloody hot in August, I went home for a month. Sigh.

  7. Matt November 24, 2010 at 3:20 pm #

    I can imagine it’s difficult to have different short and long term priorities, yet it speaks wonders about your relationship in that you can make it work. Good luck in making the plans a reality, I look forward to watching your progress.

    Perhaps you two should start with a shorter visit to Queenstown sometime in summer 2011?!

  8. Heather November 24, 2010 at 8:06 pm #

    Matt took the words out of my mouth — speaks very well of your relationship that you have different preferences and styles and seek to find a way to have them work together πŸ™‚ Looking forward to seeing what adventures (in Oz and around-the-world) the future holds in store for you two!

  9. Adam @ Sit Down Disco November 24, 2010 at 9:53 pm #

    I don’t even think it has to be a compromise. Over time your dreams might become his… maybe he just needs time. Or vice versa. πŸ™‚

  10. Federico November 26, 2010 at 3:53 pm #

    It’s a familiar story, in our case I am the one who needs to hit the rode more. At the end of the day it is just as important that you can talk about it and set some goals to keep your spirit happy πŸ™‚

  11. Bethany November 27, 2010 at 10:12 am #

    oh this tale is always rearing it’s ugly head when partners and travel are combined in the same sentence. I’m sure it will work out though – I agree w/ Patrick, it’s hard to turn down good dough but at the same time delaying travel is like delaying life and you never know what will happen until you hit the road. What we all need is to be independently wealthy. Maybe we should start planing the Oz and US lotto and split the winnings!!

    I think the best comment was the timeline idea – that’s pretty crafty – wish I had thought of that one, oh i don’t know 3 years ago!! hahah

  12. Chris - The Aussie Nomad November 27, 2010 at 9:06 pm #

    That’s one hell of a pickle you both find yourselves in. But as you and others have said it speaks wonders for the relationship you both share. I can sit on both sides of the fence, I’d kill for a great career that set me up but damn travelling for as long as possible sure is bloody tempting.

    I shall look forward to following along with your goal.

  13. Chris November 28, 2010 at 12:47 am #

    Hehe, it’s strange how people with such different priorities can be so good for one another. It’s great that the two of you don’t let that kind of difference interfere with your having a fantastic time together!

  14. Lois December 15, 2010 at 6:00 pm #

    So cute! I am in the same predicament with my guy. Before Hutch, it was go on a long backpacking trip to SE Asia then plan on living in Australia and never (or maybe someday) come back to my home country. But having Hutch in my life changed that. Although we are both intrepid travelers, he is more grounded in continuing to live in the Philippines and just travel for short periods of time in a year. I guess we’ll have to compromise..

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