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Day 3: The Way We’re Perceived Online

Day 3:  Shopping with Christmas Gift Cards

Day 3: Shopping with Christmas Gift Cards

Do you ever hold back from saying something on your blog even though it is how you honestly feel, or what you truly think on a subject?

Today I went shopping to spend the awesome gift card money I got over the holidays, and I started thinking about what type of clothes I wanted to buy. I’m not really a fashionable person, and all the clothes just seemed too much “not me” — but then again, I never buy new clothes, so I’m really behind!

With my delay in fashion, I questioned what the clothing on the racks said about whoever wears them. More importantly, I questioned how people would perceive me when they saw me in them. In case you were concerned, I didn’t go with the leopard print visor in the photo above.

The topic of perception by others has been on my mind a lot lately, specifically in the online realm. What can I say on my blog exactly and not receive too much backlash from — because, let’s face it, there are *plenty* of things I keep to myself that I really would rather blog about to the world. Why? I guess it’s because I like to rant; it goes hand-in-hand with my often cynical sense of humor. So, when I have a very strong opinion on something controversial, my blog looks like the perfect soapbox from which to sing my personal thoughts to the people.

It is terribly hard to hold back at times, probably because I feel as though my blog is personal — and what I’d say to my friends in person, I’d like to be able to just say it here as well. Makes sense, right? Why change how I manner myself in the online realm if it isn’t who I really am? Not that I’m too much different than what I already put out. You’re just missing a few of the snarky remarks that *might* make some of you laugh, and make me smile.

Do you ever get tempted to say the things you really want to say on your blog, but don’t because of the way you might then be perceived by others?


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23 Responses to Day 3: The Way We’re Perceived Online

  1. Caroline Eubanks January 4, 2011 at 3:45 am #

    I tend to post my thoughts completely honestly and they end up getting me in trouble. For instance, when I call bullshit on the same travel bloggers getting recognized continuously. You may piss some people off, but I think it’s good to stick to your true thoughts.

    • Brooke January 4, 2011 at 3:52 am #

      I agree, yet now I have more than just my blog to think about… I also have work with BnA that –who knows — could be impacted by my personal actions here. Ya know?

      • Caroline Eubanks January 4, 2011 at 8:20 am #

        That’s true. I have a whole lot less at stake. PS I think you’re doing a great job both here and on WhyGo Australia!

  2. Jill - Jack and Jill Travel The World January 4, 2011 at 4:35 am #

    Ugh, YES definitely. If don’t consciously hold back, it’ll be filled with way too much incorrigible rants and politically incorrect sentiments πŸ™‚ That’s why even though I write at the so-called ‘heat of the moments’ I don’t publish them right away – or at all.

    • Brooke January 5, 2011 at 1:11 am #

      Oh, how many times I’ve deleted stuff I wrote the next day. *sigh* Probably for the best!

  3. ayngelina January 4, 2011 at 4:35 am #

    You know I think people perceive me as much nicer than I really am. Maybe I am holding back too, or maybe I just choose to be nicer.

    • Brooke January 7, 2011 at 9:31 am #

      What? You’re not this nice in real life? πŸ˜‰ Sounds like me.

  4. Michael Hodson January 4, 2011 at 4:43 am #

    I definitely don’t post everything I think, see or do online. No way in hell am I going to be completely honest 100% of the time — at least if you define honesty by posting everything you think. Some topics for me are just no appropriate for my blog. Was having a conversation with someone about this very topic recently. They were asking me about my book (which at some point might be good to make writing progress on) and asking if there will be stuff in there that I have never talked about on my blog. Hell yes there will be. If someone wants to plunk down $19.95, they can get the more full view of what I’ve been doing the last year — warts and all. But just on a regular old blog — hell no, I’m not going to publish everything. As a blunt topic – there has never been a sex mention on my blog. But its not like I’ve been a Catholic priest for the last two years. Or is that a bad analogy?? πŸ˜‰

    • Brooke January 7, 2011 at 9:29 am #

      I think what I’m referring to is the number of times I have scrapped a post, or deleted paragraphs that were too emotional or snarky. In real life, I have a very tell-it-like-it-is attitude, so I often resort to playing nice in the virtual sector more than I’d like. Just feels like I’m sometimes hiding a bit of what I really think, but I guess that’s the social aspect of being online.

  5. Katie January 4, 2011 at 5:01 am #

    Since I’m pretty new to this, I’ve kept my opinion fairly non-controversial so far, while still being myself. Same goes for commenting on other blogs. I’m not looking to tick anyone off. That being said, I would imagine once I’ve been around longer and get to “know” more people in the blogging community, I may take some more risks with voicing my opinions (while still not trying to tick any off of course!)

    • Brooke January 5, 2011 at 1:18 am #

      You know it’s been a while since I’ve heard the phrase “tick anyone off” πŸ˜‰ Reminds me of home! Thanks for sharing πŸ™‚ There’s a thin line to walk with this subject.

  6. Christine January 4, 2011 at 5:51 am #

    I think I tend to hold back more than say something other than what I think, if that makes sense. I won’t tell the whole truth, but I won’t say something I don’t mean either. If it’s not something I wouldn’t want my grandma to see (and she would, since she reads my blog), I don’t say it. I like to think of it as the me I want to the world to see–there are some things better left unsaid–and kept to savor in real life!

    • Brooke January 5, 2011 at 1:30 am #

      Ah, yes, definitely important to keep it in check if grandma is reading πŸ˜‰

  7. Annie January 4, 2011 at 9:13 am #

    I go back and forth. I only post controversial stuff if I know I have the facts straight. I have opinions but at the same time I’m pretty open to other people’s, I guess I always assume I have something to learn.

    I hold back more when it comes to personal stuff. I think people won’t want to hear it, then I think I need a bit to connect with other bloggers. Sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s not but I think blogs need more than just facts to gain loyal readers.

    • Brooke January 5, 2011 at 1:36 am #

      I think I’m probably much too stubborn with my own opinions πŸ˜‰ I also think that people do connect with personal stories, so I wouldn’t mind putting more on here.

  8. Lauren January 4, 2011 at 9:34 am #

    I have stopped holding back as much in the personal realm and started paring back my religious, social and political opinions, which used to populate my old blog. I’ve found that personal insights and shortcomings are where a lot of people most identify.

  9. Candice January 4, 2011 at 11:22 am #

    I think about this a lot too. I found some old blog posts before people started reading me, and they were much more honest and…interesting. Now I censor. I guess that’s the trade-off, right? Less controversy on your blog vs more hits…maybe.

    • Brooke January 5, 2011 at 1:27 am #

      Trade-off indeed. Guess it’s all about finding a balance, hey?

  10. Bethany January 5, 2011 at 9:26 am #

    All the time! I’m starting tomorrow with a personal post that credits you. πŸ™‚

    • Brooke January 5, 2011 at 9:43 am #

      Aw, Bethany – can’t wait to read it! πŸ˜‰

  11. Katrina January 7, 2011 at 8:59 pm #

    Nice post and a good subject. Yes, I hold back, but for the specific reason that my blog is aimed at being silly and upbeat. There are plenty of things I could complain about, but I don’t really need to do that: the media is chock full of negativity. My blog is meant to bring a smile to the face of the reader, so I self edit a lot. Facebook now, well, that’s a different matter… πŸ˜‰


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